Is your relationship actually toxic — or are you overthinking it?

For safety reasons, my identity is protected in this photo — something many in our community understand.

I spent 9 years trapped. I built this so you don't have to.

I know what it feels like to wonder if you're the crazy one. To replay every argument at 3am trying to figure out what just happened. To apologize for things that aren't your fault because it's easier than the alternative.

After 9 years in a narcissistic relationship, the hardest part wasn't leaving — it was understanding what was happening in the first place. That clarity changed everything. And I thought: why did it take me so long? Why didn't something like this exist?

So I built it. The assessment, the defense coach, the scripts — this is everything I wish I'd had when I was going through it. The tool that could have saved me years of confusion and self-doubt.

Even if this isn't your story, it might be someone you love — a sister, a friend, a coworker who seems like she's disappearing. 1 in 3 women and 1 in 4 men will experience some form of intimate partner abuse. This is bigger than any one relationship.

If this resonates with you — or with someone you know — I hope you'll support what we're building here. Share the quiz. Send someone the link. Sometimes clarity is the most powerful thing you can give a person.